February 3, 2004
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A story heard from my sister that I’d want to share… She read it from some Vietnamese book and I translated to tell you guys.
A well-known animal trainer got a fish from the sea and thought that he’d make a big difference by training the fish to adapt to different environments where it had been in. First he trained the fish to live in fresh water, and he did it. He got the fish swim in a beautiful large fresh water tank in his home. Then he made another change by training the fish not to live in fresh water. Again, he was succesful. Later he trained the fish to walk and it walked around the house. He was so proud of his accomplishment and was eager to show the world that he took the fish for a walk in the park and the fish would follow him everywhere he went. Suddenly, it rained so hard and he ran to the rain shelter to stay out of the rain, but when he turned around the fish was not with him. He looked and looked for the fish. Finally he found a lifeless fish in the rain puddle. The fish drowned. It couldnt swim from the puddle to the shelter, and it died.
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Like this fish (that we sisters called it “the walking fish”), some people who dont know how to get out of a place or situation where/when they dont want to be in but because of how they are used to it and that they accept to be in that place/situation instead of fighting to get out. This is called a “habit”. Creating habits for yourself sometimes is a good thing. However, some habits can effect you negatively. Instead of struggling in the place you dont want to be, why cant you do something to get out from it? Some people just dont have the courage to change or fight to find the way out, or is it just that it has been a routine for them to follow that they just cant survive without following it. For some people who have been in relationships for a quite long time but they dont love the other, and for this so-called reason, they just cant get out from it. They have to hang on there with that one they dont love because they think that they are not capable to be by themself. I myself in the past years was in a bad habit. I kept moving on from one relationship right to another without being in love or realizing that we were not meant to be. I just got so used to being involved with someone and I had to have somebody to call boyfriend. And I didnt realize it until I was in the last relationship when I knew that loving each other was not enough for a strong stable relationship but it required both to be IN LOVE. I thought I was in a happy place where I got to see and be with him everyday. Everyday routines are repeated constantly and we just followed it like machines. One day we sat down and realized that we had moved to fast and we didnt want to be in relationship for its convinience or because of the habits that we had accidentally created. We wanted something more than that.
Comments (9)
hum..this makes me think…
well sometimes we gotta sit down and think it over. What is it that we really want? I already know what I want and will go for it. However, someone might need the other person to pull him/her out of the situation. Remember to pull me out if I am sinking…
Love,
*Mandy
that’s an interesting concept there Ms. Philosopher Tran. even though i dont know if it ties in with the fish story but anyway, the longer u wait for someone, the more u’ll learn to appreciate them once they arrive.
hey maybe when i visit i can give u a few lessons on cooking so u’ll be able to cook more than just com
Hi Chi Rachel,
Thank you for coming by. I just wanna say hi and I think ur very pretty. Are you a model cuz if ur not, u should consider being one…hehehe…Anyway, take care and stay warm ok…
Kim-Anh
I totally agree w/you and the part where you should get out if you’re not IN love. I personally think theres no point in being w/someone if you’re not head over heels for him. But then again, it’s always been a “habit” for people to stay w/someone b/c they want that “comfort zone” or simply b/c they just want companionship. Well it’s good that you want more, you definitely deserve more!
On the bruises, I hate wearing body makeup, it’s so thick. And my dress…it’s very very simple…I wish I was tiny like you and your sis so I can wear whatever I want!
Great insight, Rachel. This entry reads like something I would write about. It looks like our journals are starting to sound alike… I guess I gotta think up something to spice up my journal entries…
don’t worry about those two.. they have nothing compared to you… with your sister taken, i guess it’s just me and you. there was really never a choice anyways… you were always the one..
Hey and thanks for the birthday wishes Ms. BEEEEAUTIFUL! I look like your sis? I’d love to check her out although if she looks anything like you…I couldn’t be able to see the resemblence in us haha. You are too cute!!
Just wanna say ur welcome and thanx for the compliments also…Anyway, take care and u should post more pix of you up too…hehee…bye…
haha listen if u want to flatter me with ur cooking, my FAVORITE dish is “cuon”
and it better have bun in it too, some restaurants leave that out and i get mad!!